|Posted on February 15, 2017 at 8:20 AM||comments (0)|
I wanted to share with you an email from the Knot which show the cost of an average wedding throughout the United States. Remember this is just an average, your wedding cost could vary depending upon the venue and what is most important to you. Some couples want an high end photographer but choose a low end cake designer or the opposite is true. Some couples want extras like a handmade aisle runner. So remember this is just an estimate, it depends of what is important to both of you as a couple! Remember, it is YOUR WEDDING!
|Posted on February 1, 2017 at 9:20 AM||comments (0)|
What is an offbeat wedding?
I would define an offbeat wedding as a wedding that is not "the norm". This could mean many things!
Sometimes it would mean a bride wears a dress that is not white like Shelly's wedding
Sometimes it could mean the theme as in Cathy's Harry Potter themed wedding where we all wore Harry Potter robes and had a wand.
Danielle's wedding where the theme was steam punk and she made her own themed wedding bouquet, had watches, an old typewriter, butterflies and keys.
Sometimes it may not be in the ceremony but in the reception as in Romie's wedding had skulls!
One quirky thing I did for a couple was “a coffee ceremony” as it was something that was important in their relationship.
Here is the ceremony wording:
Wilson will now put the coffee into the espresso maker, representing his individuality and uniqueness, and the gifts that he brings to this marriage relationship.
Frhannceska will now put the sugar into the expresso maker, representing her individuality and uniqueness, and the gifts that she brings to this marriage relationship.
The coffee and the sugar has been blended together as Wilson and Frhannceska's lives will now be blended together. The sugar also represents the sweet life they will have in their marriage relationship.
When the espresso is done, both Wilson and Frhannceska will drink the espresso which will represent their new life that they will now share together.
Just as the coffee and sugar have been blended together, so will their marriage be.
Sometimes it could mean quirky things done during the ceremony like Michelle's wedding where not only did she wear a dress other than plain white but her wedding was quirky. Her Dad walked her down the aisle to the electric slide. She also wanted the words in the ceremony to be the same words used in Princess Bride and my favorite was the last line she wanted me to say “You may kiss your wookie”.
Here is some of the wording of her ceremony:
Marriage is….. what…. brings us to-gether to-day.
That Blessed arrangement….
That dream within a dream….
True love……Will follow you forever…
Sir Oak, Have you the rings?
Michele and John, may these rings for you always be your most treasured adornment and may the love they symbolize be your most treasured possession.
One ring to RULE them all
One ring to FIND them
One ring to BRING them all
and in loves warmth BIND them.
Bringing balance to the force and your lives together
I declare this marriage to be fully armed and functional
You may kiss your wookie………
Nicole's wedding the wording has reference to soccer as they are both huge soccer fans. Here is the opening of their ceremony:
As many of you already know, Nichole and Steve have a passion for hockey, and together enjoy all that hockey has to offer. Because of this, they already know a lot about marriage. Hockey and marriage aren’t all that different! Both can be loads of fun, and yet require a lot of hard work, a lot of learning, analyzing mistakes and starting over. Every day is a new and exciting game. A good game, and a good marriage – don’t just happen. It takes love to get started, and sheer determination to make it through. Sometimes we miss shooting the puck into the net, and other times the hockey puck makes it into the net, but we always try, and that is what a beautifully executed goal is. It is the same in marriage, In order to reach your goals as a couple, you need to work together as a team.
Together, the two of you can accomplish anything.
Together, the two of you will be better than you would be alone.
Together, the two of you will share your love with the world.
Together, your love will grow into a bond too strong to break.
Jason and Scott wanted a Dr. Seuss wedding and the whole ceremony needed to rhyme like Dr. Seuss books! Here are just a few of the words;
Will you take her as your wife? Will you love her all your life? Will you love through good and bad? Whether you're happy or sad?
Will you love through good and bad? Whether you're happy or sad?
I'm still waiting for Morris to set his wedding date as he told me he wanted a tea party!
Basically putting it all together it is when couples do not want the entire wedding to be “traditional”, the couple wants to add their uniqueness to it. Couples that want a celebration that will standout
Offbeat weddings are not something new but have been gaining popularity for couples who want something untraditional. These unique couples want their wedding to reflect who they are as individuals and as a couple.
Offbeat Weddings are a growing trend. Couples want something different. They want something creative, artistic, quirky and unique reflected on their wedding day. Offbeat weddings can include costuming or simply the wording of the ceremony.
Always and Forever Florida Weddings has added this new service to meet the growing demand of wedding themes for gothic, goth, emo, punk, rock & roll, Harry Potter fans, sports enthusiast, zombies, gamers, and more. Wedding ceremonies do not have to be traditional, personalized custom ceremonies can include couples love of Cosplay, Megakon, Comiccom, and Spookiecom.
Wedding ceremonies do not need to be just another “cookie cutter wedding”. Wedding ceremonies should standout as the ceremony sets the tone for your entire wedding celebration. An offbeat wedding is not about rebelling, it is simply your wedding vision and striving to create a wedding that is a reflection of you and your partner. Weddings should be meaningful to the couple and tell the story of their love.
Reverend Arlene Ponack will accommodate almost any wardrobe request! A fee may be added if required to purchase a costume.
If I had to sum up what an offbeat wedding is, I would say something that is fun and different. After all we are all different so why would everyone want the same traditional wedding? Unique couples are choosing to do unique things for their wedding….after all, it is the couples wedding day.
|Posted on October 29, 2015 at 8:00 PM||comments (0)|
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|Posted on October 29, 2015 at 7:20 PM||comments (0)|
2015 is almost over, but seeing the trends can give you ideas for your upcoming wedding. Perhaps it’s last minute decisions for your wedding decor including linens, centerpieces, flowers, and more. Color trends help you set the mood for you and your guests, share your style, and sometimes reflect on the season. Choosing your colors is a big part of the planning process. Many times current wedding trends have any impact on future wedding trends.
Some trendy colors include blue, pink, red, brown, yellow, green, and purple. Don’t be afraid to use colors withing the hue such as navy blue, royal blue or even baby blue. For pink, colors such as coral, peach or pastel. For red, think of burgundy or sangria. Browns can be sandalwood or beige. Green can be sage, khaki, aqua, or a deep green. Purple can be lavender or lilac. Neutral colors can be used such as gray, cream or a pastel yellow. You might even decide or a more luxurious color like gold, silver, or cooper.
A winter wedding trendy idea might include a hot chocolate bar. At the bar you could include whipped cream, peppermint sticks and marshmallows. The mugs could even be given as their favor.
If you are planning a fall wedding, I have found a few cute ideas:
I have also found some pictures for Christmas Weddings, Hanuakah Weddings, and simply festive holiday Weddings:
Another popular trend is candy buffets. Candy buffets can be used for fall and winter wedding themes:
Here are a few from Florida Candy Buffets ( a local Candy buffet company in Florida)
|Posted on October 14, 2015 at 12:05 AM||comments (0)|
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|Posted on October 9, 2015 at 10:25 AM||comments (0)|
Who says your reception is the only fun part of your wedding day? There's no reason why your ceremony shouldn't be as exciting, meaningful, and inventive as your reception!
Many wedding officiants offer “cookie cutter” ceremonies. To me that means you and your wedding are not important to the wedding officiant or to your family and friends. A wedding officiant who reads or recites the same exact words at every wedding believes you and the story of your love is the same as everyone else. I believe everyone has different personalities, different viewpoints and may want to infuse different aspects into their ceremony.
I have performed many different weddings over the years and have seen many different types of weddings. The weddings are as different as wedding venues are different. Some people choose to have an outdoor wedding and others prefer the comfort of an indoor wedding. Some couples choose a fancy venue, others may choose a barn, a park, or the comfort of their home.
I have done weddings where the guests dress up as in steampunk weddings like Sloane and Grey's wedding
Sometimes it may simply just be a different culture like the beautiful Wedding I did for Shivani and Christopher:
Other times perhaps no one dresses up but the wedding decorations and bouquet are themed as in Slone and Grey's wedding:
I have done weddings where someone sings or reads a poem or a passage. I have done many weddings where a friend or family member reads something they wrote, a passage from the bible, or a poem, but the two that stick out in my mind are Kara and Tim's Wedding where they had a few of their friends read song lyrics that reminded them of the couple. I also liked Dawn and Andy's Wedding where they had friends entertaining the wedding guest while rings were being passed among family and friends during a Ring Warming Ceremony. The songs were really beautiful and made the wedding special.
I have done weddings where the couples choose to use songs to walk down the aisle or couples choose to leave together with non-traditional songs. Who says you have to walk down the aisle with the traditional “Here comes the Bride” song. Modern couples use songs like
like the following list:
Katy Perry's Unconditionally
Bette Midler's Wind Beneath My Wings or The Rose
Luther Vandross's Endless Love
Christina Perri's A Thousand Years
Leanne Rhimes' A moment like this
Bryan Adam's Everything I do, I do it for you
These are just a few songs but my favorite is Michelle and Robb's Wedding. Michelle and her dad came down the aisle with Mr. C-Cha Cha Slide by Mr. C. The lyrics include:
Right foot, let's stomp!
Left foot, let's stomp To the right now!
To the left!
Take it back now y'all!
One hop this time!
One hop this time!
Right foot two stomps!
Left foot two stomps!
Slide to the left!
Slide to the right!
Cha Cha real smooth!
Michelle and Robb Wedding was probably the most unique wedding I have done. In this particular wedding, the couple wanted part of The Princess Bride wedding scene incorporated into their wedding ceremony. They also wanted me to say “You may kiss your wookie” instead of the traditional “You may kiss your bride”
Besides couples making an entrance with non-traditional songs, many couples choose to leave non-traditionally. Here is a list of non-traditional songs couples use to leave the altar:
Kelly Clarkson's A Moment Like This
James Taylor's How Sweet It Is (To Be Loved By You)
Firehouse's Love of A Lifetime
Peabo Bryson & Regina Belle's A Whole New World
Katrina and The Waves's Walking on Sunshine
Barry White's Can't Get Enough of Your Love, Babe
Louis Armstrong 's What a Wonderful World
Natalie Cole's This Will Be (An Everlasting Love)
Starship's Gonna Stop Us Now
Kool & The Gang's Celebration
James Brown's I Feel Good
Bruno Mars's Marry Me
Probably my favorite “exit” song was at Mandy's and James Wedding. Many couples use Bruno Mar's Marry Me to walk down the aisle, but they chose it as their exit song. They actually held hands and ran down the aisle to a waiting limosine. (it was an outdoor wedding). They rode around in the limousine for a few minutes then returned to their wedding. It was fun to watch!
I have done weddings where children are active in the ceremony. Many couples today have been together for years and already have children. Other couples are on their second or third wedding and want to include their children. These couples want to include their children in the wedding party and not just as the “flower girl” or “ring bearer”. Children can be a bridesmaid or a groomsman, an usher, a child can escort their mom or dad down the aisle. I've also seen very young children being pulled down the aisle in a wagon by one of the parents who is getting married!
I have done weddings where pets are included. These pets, usually dogs can serve as the “ring bearer” (better known as the “dog bearer” or where the dog has walked down the aisle with their owner as their “best man (better known as the “best dog”;).
I have done humorous weddings where couples read Mad Lib vows! In Sarah and Glyde's wedding, we had a lot of fun laughing as they read their Mad Lib Vows!
I have done weddings where the couple have made a time capsule, or done a love letter and wine box ceremony. This can be done for your wedding or in a vow renewal. In this ceremony many couples chose to open the box on a milestone anniversary. If the couple hits any bumps in the road before their milestone 5, they may choose to open their time capsule and read letters they wrote to each other to remind them of why they fell in love.
A good wedding officiant will accommodate a wide range of traditions and styles, even if they are non-traditional or for couples who choose an alternative life style. Personally, I feel it is YOUR WEDDING and the ceremony should be an outward expression of your personalities, values, beliefs, traditions blended into a ritual that is YOUR Celebration of Love!
|Posted on October 7, 2015 at 11:55 AM||comments (0)|
Having the right officiant for your wedding day is a very important decision as this is the person who is not only marrying you but is setting the tone for your entire day! There are many officiants to choose from but do you want someone who just reads “cookie-cutter” vows and helps you exchange the rings, or do you want someone who will help you create a personalized, custom ceremony that will tell the story of your love? A question that also pops up in my mind is; “Do you want someone who is professional and knows how to speak in front of an audience?” I think this is important because if your ceremony is exactly the way you want it to be, will your family and friends be able to hear and understand the words that are spoken? An officiant should not only be able to project their voice, but will speak clearly so everyone can hear and understand the story being conveyed in your wedding ceremony. Wording is also important in your wedding ceremony especially if you are striving for a beautiful ceremony that you always dreamed of! I think it is important to find a wedding officiant that will be able to come up with just the right words to express feelings of love and joy, as this is the way to tell the story of your love. You also need to find a wedding officiant who will be receptive to your preferences and personal style. Your wedding officiant should be open and willing to incorporate your ideas into your ceremony. It is your wedding and the ceremony should be no different than any other aspect of your wedding. Do you plan to give a DJ full vein on what songs to play? Are you going to let your your baker decide the flavor of your cake or what your cake should look like? Are you going to let your caterer decide what food is going to be served at your wedding? Why should the words spoken at your ceremony be any different? The wording should be exactly how you want and there should be no surprises during your ceremony! To help you decide if an officiant is the right choice for your wedding, I have three important tips to keep in mind: 1. Is your wedding officiant flexible, accommodating, and open minded? This is especially important if you want a non-traditional wedding. Traditional weddings are not for everyone. What if you want to have a steam punk wedding, infuse some rock and roll into the ceremony, or want to throw in something geeky or goth, or have a special theme in mind for your wedding ceremony. Do you want a more traditional wedding but prefer to write your own vows, some couples have told me there are wedding officiants that do not allow the couples to write any part of the ceremony including their own vows. Vows can be very personal and every couple should be able to write their own if that is what they choose. Do you want a special reading that is read or even sung by family members and friends. Do you want to include children into the ceremony? Do you want the children to stand at the alter, will they sit still and be quiet during the ceremony? Depending on their ages, probably not, so you want a wedding officiant that can “go with the flow” and adjust any part of the ceremony that may not go exactly as planned. Do you want to include your pets into the ceremony? What is you choose to have a “dog bearer” for the rings, does your wedding officiant have a good sense of humor as pets will not always be as quiet as you anticipated. Or perhaps you are still having a traditional wedding wedding but you want to infuse your religious beliefs or combine two religions, is your wedding officiant experienced in combining different religions? Are you a same sex couple, is your wedding officiant LBGT friendly? What if you want to incorporate your heritage and wear traditional attire such as a kilt, a sari, or a kimono. Some couples prefer to wear nontraditional attire such as a black wedding dress, jeans and a t-shirt, or a costume for a themed wedding. Will your officiant wear a costume or dress according if that is what you desire? A good wedding officiant does many weddings that may be unique, different, and is used to performing ceremonies when the “unexpected” happens. The ideal wedding officiant will listen to your personal preferences and style and will tailor the ceremony accordingly. It is YOUR wedding and YOU want a wedding officiant that will make your ceremony beautiful and memorable! 2. Is your wedding officiant experienced and professional? Remember that old saying “you get what you paid for”? It is important to have an experienced and professional wedding officiant. Some couples try to cut corners but a bad choice in a wedding officiant could turn months of planning into a wedding disaster that you will regret forever. What will your wedding officiant be wearing? Will the wedding officiant show up dressed professional? You are probably paying a lot of money for a good photography and/or a videographer. Do you want your wedding officiant's attire to ruin your wedding pictures or video? How comfortable is your wedding officiant in speaking in front of an audience? Will your wedding officiant just be reading from a script? Anyone can read a script does your wedding officiant's voice have inflection and tone or is it mundane and boring? A true professional wedding officiant can bring the words to life! The personality of your wedding officiant can also have an impact on your ceremony. Someone with an upbeat, friendly nature can perform your wedding ceremony with style and grace. An experience, warm and friendly wedding officiant can put you at ease. Weddings are stressful but a warm, friendly, and caring wedding officiant can put you at ease even with just a smile. Reliability is also an extremely important factor when choosing your wedding officiant. A professional wedding officiant will show up early and be prepared. A good wedding officiant is flexible and can adapt to any changes made the day of your wedding. Most weddings do not go exactly as planned and sometimes they may start late. How does your wedding wedding officiant react to surprises and changes that may happen last minute. I have been asked by many photographers how I feel about flash photography or if they get behind me or right next to me to get “that shot”. I think it is important to hire a wedding officiant that does not mind a photographer doing his or her job. It is the couples' wedding and the couple is paying the photographer to get “that shot”. A professional wedding officiant should be there for you for any questions or concerns from the moment they are first contacted by you and every moment right up to the ceremony. Will your wedding officiant answer your questions and concerns in a quick and efficient manner? What if a few weeks before the ceremony, you decide to change part of the ceremony, will your wedding officiant be accommodating? 3. Free Consultation – Does your wedding officiant offer a free consultation? A consultation can be done in person or on the phone. You need to ask questions to decide if this is the right wedding officiant for you. While speaking to the wedding officiant, listen to the quality of his or her voice. Is their voice filled with inflection and tone or is it flat and mundane? Does this person speak clearly and professionally? If you are meeting him or her in person, is this person dressed professionally? Does he or she sound interested in your ceremony and does he or she care about your ceremony? How enthusiastic does he or she seem to be about your wedding ceremony? Is he or she listening and understanding what you want for your wedding officiant? How would you know the answer to any of these questions if you do not meet your wedding officiant or talk to your wedding officiant on the telephone? These are just a few tips from Reverend Arlene Ponack on hiring the right wedding officiant for your wedding. I hope you enjoyed reading this blog post as much as I enjoyed writing it. I hope you enjoy further blog posts and ask me questions anytime by phone, email, text, or in person. Please comment on this blog post and let me know what you think. Thank you, Arlene
|Posted on May 25, 2014 at 12:00 AM||comments (0)|
Thank you for finding Always and Forever Florida Weddings’s Blog. I hope you enjoy the blog posts and find them helpful and relevant to your wedding I have written and officiated weddings for over 12 years in Florida. I became ordained as a non-denominational minister in Naples Florida then moved my company to Orlando Florida 4 years ago.
My hope is to give you valuable information in my blogs. I will be offering tips, advise and ideas for your wedding!
Feel free to email me at [email protected] or call me at 407-271-2430 with your thoughts, suggestions, questions and concerns. I’d love to hear from you!
Reverend Arlene Ponack